I recently went to not one, but two weddings. On consecutive weekends & opposite ends of the country, no less. They couldn’t have been more different and yet the key elements were the same. One was a gay wedding in downtown San Francisco in a redwood grove (who knew!). The attendees were invited to dress as brides because there were obviously not going to be any brides in the ceremony. The other wedding was in Western Pennsylvania in the country. This wedding was a very traditional event, but no less spectacular.
While each wedding was different the key elements were there: friends and family, a ceremony, professed love, great food, an open bar and a yummy wedding cake!
I often wonder why weddings are in summer. Is it because of the warmer weather? Is it because schools out and people can get together easier? Or is it simply because that is the tradtion? Any way you slice it, a wedding is a great thing to bring people together old and young and to celebrate something meaningful. Whether you believe in marriage or not, if you have attended one where the 2 people coming together are truly in love you can feel it spill out on to you and thaw your iceberg of a heart (well that’s what happens to me anyways).
What I like about weddings is you know about them usually far in advance and you plan to take time off to attend. And if you are a grower in the middle of the busy season you know exactly how important it is to take a couple of days off here and there to help you to rest and recover from the daily bullshit of pulling tarp, listening to your partners/workers and just the daily routine of life on the hill.
At this point you might be wondering why I’m writing about weddings. Truth is I have no fucking clue except it was nice to go to them, because they were MY people. The last several weddings I went to, I was the plus one and my wife was the one who was invited.
I guess I’m at that age where not many of my people are getting married anymore. I’m 46 so that actually makes sense. I just hope the next wedding from one of my friends is local so I can tie one on and sleep in my bed!
Let me know if you’re getting married so I can congratulate you personally. And don’t invite me unless you’re local because I would have to bring my 4 year old and she will personally try to fuck up your ceremony with her cute antics. She tried during the last 2 weddings and I was the hero of those ceremonies because I dragged her ass far away before there was a scene! So I got to see the beginning of each one but not the ending. Boohoo! Still was worth it.
Happy Summer Weddings! -James D